To the Young Woman Who is the ‘Funny Friend’

To the Young Woman Who is the ‘Funny Friend’and smiling


Let’s just get something out of the way —  funny friend and vice versa. But if I were a betting woman, I’d guess that you, the person who is known first and foremost as being the funny friend, feel like you’re probably a few standard deviations from a 5 on a scale of 1-10 hotness. Am I right?

You get these positive types of adjectives applied to your looks: adorable, cute ― end of list. And most of all, people tell you how funny you are. I mean, you are a real riot. Sarcastic or clever or great with fart jokes — you really slay at making people laugh.

reading messege and smiling because of funny friends

“Funny” can guide you, sustain you, and love you back

Someone said something to me once. They said, “You show me a beautiful person, and I’ll show you someone who’s tired of fucking them.” Despite this being an awful, crude statement, it caused me to have an epiphany. I realized that being pretty or feminine or poised or put-together had literally zero correlation to happiness and acceptance in the long-term.

Being able to wear heels and not walk like Quasimodo didn’t mean that you wouldn’t confidently click through life lonely and isolated. Having Instagram-model makeup skills doesn’t equal fulfillment or enlightenment. These traits and abilities are excellent for entry into a relationship or job or clique. 

funny friends

The thing about being funny, unlike a lot of other human characteristics, is that it’s usually a secondary thing. The primary thing is either very bad or very good. Maybe you’re funny, often tell funny stories, because your home life or brain life is shitty and it’s an escape. On the flip side, maybe you’re one of the lucky ones who has a warm network of support that gave you the confidence to be your hilarious self.

Either way, funny is a signal that someone comes out of something extraordinary. A funny person has capitalized on the positive and minimized the negative; a funny person not only earned this gift but cultivated and practiced it with great care.


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